April 5, 2005

LDRs

LDR is Long Distance Relationship. It may be friendship, love, brotherhood, business contact or timepass etc. Like I'm living in some gandhiji nagar and one of my good female friend is in a windiest city in kiwiland(yes you, comments plz!!!)-the last tip of the world, I can hardly interact with her. When I left school then all of us(friends) promised that we'll stay in contact with each other. It started off pretty well, but then the initial fizz was lost. Away from sight and hence away from heart, is true, I guess. If I call up my friend in Bangalore now and tell him that "yaar, I'm having SEN lab now and I'm so bored. Writing blogs is fun, anyways I ate blah-blah for the lunch. And power just went off...", will he take it seriously? He doesn't know what's SEN at the first place and unless the lunch is yummy he won't even consider that... and hence starts the distance gap which is physical as well as emotional. So here's 100 rupees question, Can LDRs with someone you have already been with can flourish?

I love my cellphone... it's the best thing that I possess in my pocket. The instant way to communicate ppl around the world... but costs money! I don't mind spending few bucks for talking to an old friend, but generally the return response is not so enthrilling. SMS, what a beautiful thing?? But money matters.Email is an outmoded way of comm. Now I can't imagine myself writing long emails with proper punctuation to anyone except the faculties of my coll. Orkut, thanks a lot, you are a dream come true! The easiest way to communicate ppl is scrapping, the real fun of life! But this is accessible to only those who have literally free internet all the time... and not everyone is a geek. Yeah, there are few more ways but leave it.
Its not just the way of comm. which matters, what matters most is your relationship still afresh? Everything fades away with respect to time.If the other person is just a casual friend, then forget it! If the other person is your lover, then initially there'll be lot of compassion but then no one will prefer to stay burning with desire. You'll find someone else, s/he will find someone else and life will go on, unless its pure love which is rare. Quoting Pink Floyd's One of my Turns (one of mah favs, too),

Day after day, love turns grey, Like the skin of a dying man.
And night after night, we pretend it's all right,
But I have grown older, and you have grown colder,
And nothin' is very much fun anymore.

I've seen even best friends losing contact once they are out of sight. We make new acquaintances in our life, and settle down in a different place and whatever is left behind seems to be a distant past.

OK! enuf! Do you still think that you can deterministically say that you'll not leave people behind you? Trust me, after five years down the line it'll be very hard to stay in regular contact with college friends. The conclusion is fairly simple, live your life now. Enjoy, make the best out of it, live it to fullest, cause time gone by never comes back, stating the obvious. I cannot convince myself that I will forget people who come in my life, though I've enough reasons to believe so. I still feel that I'll be messaging to you, ten years from now. Will you do the same? *emotions overflowing**sob sob*

24 comments:

Smartalec said...

i'm online! yippee!!
this post sure makes me feel bad! i haven't called up my bestest for abt 4 months :(! now that i've realized my mistake, itz time to make up! but how shud i call them up n what shud i say?!

ravishing nymph said...

omg where does ur friend live!! i m from nz!!.. im guessing auckland.. but donno .. is her name isha too.. i mean im guessing from ur homepage.. and list of friends.. but i cud be wrong.. hmm.. why is everyone so senti today

ravishing nymph said...
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ravishing nymph said...

i suppose when it comes to real senti about anyone i leave behind.. im very emotionless... or cold hearted or whateva.. i undergo constant reinvention.. so each time i leave a place.. its people i love to death.. but would never consider being with at a new place.. whats done has been done.. saying this.. i m writing snail mail to my best friend.. since the beginning of this year.. and now in the first week of april we are still going strong.. i doubt this will stay this way.. i can already notice a million things changing about her.. and a million things having changed about me.. so LDRs dont work.. yes there can however be the odd star out of the lot.. but in general no.. hmm

Smartalec said...

so what u wanna say is don't waste ur time on LDRS??? hmmmm...
and gosh! i'm too damn senti today:(!

Smartalec said...

so what u wanna say is that it's not worth wasting time over LDRs?? hmmmm......
and gosh! i'm too damn senti today:(!

Amod said...

Isha, how can u be so stupid???hehe... I was talkking about u only... and the Isha in my homepage is in India only. :-)
Shit, u misinterpreted everything!
well ur atti is rite frm ur point of view, but I think v should still have the hope...

Bhavesh said...

v can atleast make the effort...
just today advani called...
also, i think, friendship is not abt keepin in touch thru phone, email or orkut. it is abt rememberin ur friend.
v go 2 new places n lose contact wid most of those whom v left behind but u will always b in touch wid a select few. u dont need 2 tell him/her abt SEN.. he/she can understand the feeling... even today when i talk 2 someone frm pune i bcome the innocent *winks* Bhavesh wid a twinkle in his eye. my heart rate doubles n i m transferred 2 a different world, a world which is ... like ... Neverland, mayb...
i cuds hv posted this in my blog rather than here :x, kya senti baba diya chuhe.

ravishing nymph said...

Like I'm living in some gandhiji nagar and one of my good female friend is in a windiest city in kiwiland(yes you, comments plz!!!)-the last tip of the world, I can hardly interact with her. When I left school then all of us(friends) promised that we'll stay in contact with each other.

the thing is.. the (juxta)posing of those two parallel ideas.. made me go .. whoa.. coz see.. u were talking about school friends and blah blah .. and how u guys got juda-fied from each other.. see what i mean??.. hehe.. we can interact.. web cams are god's own boon.. and i need to spend a hundred bucks to procure this boon lol ..

ravishing nymph said...

besides im the kinda girl .. that goes with the statement.. see all you can baby.. cherish me wid your eyes.. dont you dare touch me.. or you will turn cold as ice...

hehe.. so you are probably better off not knowing me.. anyway ..personally .. hehe.. as a friend i'd probably be more in contact wid u this way u dig?...

Smartalec said...

scary *shivers*!

Amod said...

ravishing nymph- " see all you can baby"
I'm going to sell my books and buy a webcam!

ravishing nymph said...

lol .. lol.. amod .. dont get naughty now ok..i am only 17.. you cud be in serious trouble.. even if im the one tempting you ehahaha.. lol.. aaagh.. alec stop shivering.. and u shudnt have grabbed my hand like that.. uhhh.. eek uhhh..

Smartalec said...

this is crazy!

ravishing nymph said...

sure is.. steve.. you flooding on other ppls comment boxes is sure crazy.. lol.. hehehe.. look whose talking ahem ahem..

Grafxgurl said...

lol..the comments here are hilarious!!..
amod.. thanks for dropping by my blog.!

Amod said...

Yeah commentbox has bcome a chatbox, anyways my comment count is increasing giving me great satisfaction... Ravishing Nymph, u r really out of ur mind? :-)

Bhavesh said...

r thr ny smileys 4 "seein", ppl??
i hv prepared a list:
a webcam
a broadband connection
a 29 inch monitor
lowfrequency high sensitivity multiple speakers wid 3D surround sound
live video feed recorder

i will auction the abov things in F-115... what? wht were u guyz thinkin?

Bhavesh said...

steve leave her hand n amod behave properly, u cud get into trouble. cant u even wait 4 a yr?
steve can b well prepared wid the pills till then n amod wud hv his share by borrowin them.

in the meantime i will b auctionin the above stuff.

amod said...

Bhavesh, I couldn't get your point????

Bhavesh said...

its ok, you dont hv 2 admit it.

ravishing nymph said...

lol amod is the innocent baby bhavesh u could really leave it out.. ill educate him when the time comes.. you chill it coolios??

Amod said...

@nymph - I wd like 2 learn whatever a nymph teaches...

@bhavesh-be more specific, I'm little complicated :D

ravishing nymph said...

u mean u r a little confused?? hehe..